Just like we talked a few days about about the power of saying “no” to a lot of things in your life, there is also a lot of power in saying “yes”…to the right things. It is a valuable exercise to consider what you really do when you say “yes.” Let’s spend some time on a few of the results of saying “yes.”
You Open Doors (and close others)
When you say “yes” to someone or something, you’re opening the door to it, embracing whatever it involves, and saying “no” to, and shutting the door on, whatever would have taken its time/energy/money instead. Think of a marriage proposal. When a man nervously gets down on one knee and fumbles through some speech ultimately ending in, “will you marry me?” the implications of that woman saying “yes” are HUGE!
You Learn Some Things
Experts in any given field are usually experts because they’ve either said “yes” and lived a certain situation or diligently studied scores of others who have said “yes.” When you try something new, you’re learning as you go. You may be clumsy and slow to start, but keep at it. Just like a child learning to take its first steps, you learn from saying “yes,” evaluating each step and improving/correcting along the way. There is no replacement for experience.
You Take Risks
There are a lot of risks in this life worth taking – marriage, parenting, dream job, etc. You can’t experience those things if you’ll never say “yes” to any of them. When you say “no,” you don’t get the experience – when you say “yes,” it is all yours…good or bad. And there’s no way to know until you’ve said “yes.” While loads of unnecessary risk is simply foolish, I’m finding more and more as I progress in life that some risks are worth taking. As I’ve heard it said before, “the worst you’ll do is fail!”