There are times in life where we simply need help. We live in a culture that prizes self-reliance but also encourages a victim mentality for those who are looking for an excuse to be lazy. So I’m not surprised that when I coach someone in truly terrible financial shape and mention community resources that may be able to help, the answer I receive will almost always tell me whether or not that person is going to overcome their situation or become the next “victim” my tax dollars support.
Let me make something clear before we move on:
It is okay to ask for help.
Now that I’ve given you permission to ask for help, let’s discuss some details. If you’re truly down and struggling, don’t wallow in self-pity, live in denial or start thinking like a poor person. These are all extremely easy to do, and none of them will benefit you. You should never define yourself by your current circumstance. Your value is not based on your circumstance unless you decide it is.
If you decide to ask for help, here are the rules:
- You must accept the help graciously.
- You must be a part of the solution to whatever problem you’re experiencing.
- You must NOT use the help as an excuse for laziness.
- You must use the help only as long as necessary.
- You must be willing to help someone else when your struggle has passed and theirs has begun.
I guess I can sum up this very short post with this thought: Everybody falls down. Sometimes the fall is so hard you need someone to help you up. But NEVER stay down. Never admit defeat.