There are two huge lies that we all, at one point or another, start to believe. Many people even live out their lives miserable because of their belief of these falsehoods. Here are the lies:
failure is optional • failure is permanent
You see, failure IS NOT OPTIONAL. All of us have failed. In fact, all of us are terrible failures in one way or another. No matter how awesome you are or how awesome you think your hero is, he/she is truly terrible at something and a miserable failure in some way or another. Embrace that fact and understand that failure is normal. Failure is going to happen.
That gets me to the second lie. Failure can be permanent, but only if you allow it to be. Failure is only permanent when you surrender. Failure only wins when you give up. When you believe failure is a permanent situation, you lose hope. When you believe failure is permanent, you get discouraged and momentum toward success is lost. Failure IS NOT PERMANENT…unless you allow it to be.
Here’s my point: it is those who keep getting back up and refusing to surrender that become the success stories. For all those who gain lasting success, there is a story behind it of numerous failures. Don’t believe me? Look at anyone of lasting significance and study their biography. Every single time you will find a story of someone who failed, but persevered. You will find a story of someone who was told ‘no,’ but worked until he/she reached a ‘yes’ somewhere else. You will find a story of someone who realized that failure is simply a stepping stone to success, and nothing more.
I encounter too many people who have lost hope and who have decided failure, even though miserable, is all there is in life. I encounter too few people who, when they’ve just hit a rough patch, are able to see past tomorrow. Next time you are wallowing in pity over a terrible situation, I hope you will remember that there’s a good chance you’ve started to believe one of these lies. I hope you’ll remember them as lies instead of truths. If you do, I promise it will change your outlook.